Last week I had to make a big decision. A decision that could have involved me leaving London and moving across the country. Now I find it hard enough to decide what to wear in the morning let alone making (slightly) more important, potentially life changing decisions!
And of course there is no ‘one size fits all’ approach to making important decisions but God has been teaching me some general ideas of how to make good decisions well.
1) Start with love. Any decisions you make will be meaningless and fruitless unless they bring you closer to God. And you’ll never be ready to make any wise decisions, if you don’t start at the foot of the cross. Start with love. Stay in love. Let love by the wellspring and life be the overflow.
2) Pray about it more than you talk about it.
I have to credit this one to Erin via Katie. Make sure God is always your first port of call. Prayer and worship bring us into the presence of God, and it is in the presence of God that our hearts are transformed and our minds are renewed. Spend time with God, get to know His heart and let your decisions come out of that place.
3) Advice and accountability.This does not mean expecting someone else to make your decision for you! But gather your wise friends, the people who love you and know you well and ask them to be praying for you, to be holding you accountable. Test every piece of advice, but know that God can and does use other people to input wisdom and guidance. Particularly because often other people can see something from outside the situation that you are blind to from the middle.
4) Listen. Too often I spend ages asking God to speak to me, telling him what I need, putting in my requests and then I walk away and don’t listen to his response. Be constantly asking God to speak to you and constantly listening for his voice. Sometimes God’s guidance is very obvious and sometimes it’s more subtle. Either way you won’t hear God speaking unless you are listening.
5) Read. Get into the Word. The more we read the Bible, the more we understand the character of God and what God would and wouldn’t want us to do. If your decision stands against something in the bible, don’t do it.
6) Just do it. Don’t become paralyzed with indecision. Often it is only when we push on a door that we realise it is firmly shut! The sovereignty of God is bigger than your decisions. God can use us anywhere- and this is not an excuse for unwise decisions but instead its an assurance of grace.
Isaiah 30:21: Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, “This is the way; walk in it.”
(Oh and in case you were wondering, I have decided to stay in London next year!)